Up till now I still do not understand why young women are advised to remain chaste before marriage (keep their virginity) and the same advice is hardly given to their male counterparts.

I still do not understand why in some cultures women who cheat on their husbands die in the act or run mad instantly but their male counterparts who cheat on their wives go free. Why?

Are men permitted to be promiscuous while women are forbidden. When as young boys growing up emphasis is on the virginity of girls and not on the virginity of both.

Young women are advised to be wary of the boys. To avoid getting too close to them because they may get them pregnant. This they obey and run away from the boys.

But unfortunately no one thinks it wise to admonish the boy child the same way the girl child is admonished. No tells him to respect and protect women and desist from turning them into sexual objects.

No one advises him to remain chaste till marriage. The society hardly talks about boys remaining virgins also. They are quick to condemn the girls who move around with boys labelling them prostitutes but sees the boys as heroes for their ability to have so many girls.

The society portrays men as savages or animals that do not have control over their sexual urges and they are allowed to express it. While the women are taught to be in control of theirs and then control the men when they approach them.

This is a serious misunderstanding of sexual expression in our society.

In order to tell us how wrong we are the Bible made it clear to us that anyone who engages in sexual immorality shall not inherit the kingdom of God. The Word of God did not say women but any person who disobeys the commandment of God, who defiles the temple of the HOLY SPIRIT him shall God kill.

I make bold to say that:
Virginity is for everybody
boys and girls alike.
Virginity is not a woman thing.

Both women and men should be taught and encouraged to remain virgins till marriage.

And to remain faithful in marriage.

God bless us all.

I love you



When you are in danger how do you react? Those who have a strong emergency system will die 911, those who do not will shout and call for help from neighbours.

But do know that none of these is reliable. They can fail, they may not arrive in time to help us and when they arrive may not have the solution.

That is why you need to be aware of the name of JESUS. This is the most reliable and dependable name. Call upon the name of the LORD. The BIBLE says who ever calls upon the name of the LORD shall be saved.

Whenever you find yourself in any form of danger don’t delay in calling upon the name of JESUS. Shout “JESUS save me!”

A certain women whom I met in a hospital was berated by everyone around her for not calling upon the name of JESUS when the person she was taking care of struggled between life and death. She was instead crying and calling the woman’s name. Don’t be like her.




Heart of JESUS,
Through which the love of GOD flows into my heart,

Adorable heart of JESUS,
Whose love cleanses me of my sins and sets me on the path of righteousness,

Lovely heart of JESUS,
Who out of the abundance of his love blesses the works of my hand,

Heart of JESUS,
From Where the blood of salvation and water of baptism issues forth for our liberation,

Compassionate heart of JESUS,
Over burdened at the garden of GETHSAMANE yet carried my sins to cross at CALVARY,

The heart which teaches me love and campassion and leads me on the way to salvation,

HEART OF JESUS, open to all who seek him

HEART OF JESUS, who carries our burden and gives us rest, healing us.





So he said to me, “This is the word of the LORD to Zerubbabel: ‘Not by might nor by power, but by my Spirit,’ says the LORD Almighty.

“What are you, mighty mountain? Before
Zerubbabel you will
become level ground. Then he will bring out the capstone to shouts of ‘God bless it! God bless it!’ ”
(Zech 4:6-7)



The city devoid of violence
The peaceful city

The city devoid of conflicts
The city devoid of war
The city devoid of terrorism

Where love reigns
The peaceful city

City of harmony and justice
Of where there are no in fighting
lets build that city




WHAT ARE YOU THINKING (a poem by mcn)

What are you thinking?
Is either you are thinking positively or you are thinking negatively, If you are thinking positively you are safe,
This means you are thinking about the good things of life,
The wonderful and joyful events in your life,
The past joyful occasions in your life,
The future glory that will be yours,
The wonderful future that awaits you,

If you are thinking negatively,
You are not safe,
This means you are worrying about all the negative events in your life, You are dwelling on past failures, disappointment, and pains, You are worrying about your present painful predicament,
You are worried about your future,

This means Two things are involved,

It is either you develop high BP
or you get frustrated and commit suicide

AND I don’t want you to experience any of the two,

so stop worrying and start living,

I want you to be happy, ok

So smile for me
Luv u



Don’t keep it to yourself, spill it out. Don’t try to conceal it, tell a trusted friend or a family member.

No man is island, that is the way life is meant to be. Tell someone about the pain in your heart, that problem you are encountering. Being strong doesn’t mean keeping your problem to yourself and dying emotional. The assuring words of a friend or a relative has a healing effect on you.

The person you talked to may not have an answer to your problem but you get better and stronger when you unburden your heart. And above all tell God about it. Spill it out all in prayer. You will be happier knowing full well that God is aware of what you are passing through.

You are stronger than you think you are. I know you will overcome all your challenges. Believe in yourself and in your God.

Remain blessed
I love you
Your friend


YOU HAVE CHANGED (musings by mcn)

We met during your first year. As a fresher you were young, vibrant , beautiful and dedicated. And above all you were innocent, spiritual and godly. We tapped into your zeal in the service of God. In our fellowship you were our unelected leader.

You took your studies very serious. You shunned all form of boyfried-girlfriend relationship. You said you didn’t want to be distracted by a relationship. I was a friend who loved you but I dare not tell you. Hence I had to be contented with just being your friend. I admired you for your simplicity, your love of God and your jovial and friendly nature.

In your second year I began to notice changes in your lifestyle. You were gradually drifting away from whom you were to whom you are not. Your zeal for the Lord was gradually dwindling. You now had excuses for not attending fellowship, Masses or any other spiritual gathering. I noticed your clothes were getting shorter and tighter by the day. Your dresses now becoming more revealing and explicit than you would have loved. You were once against women wearing trousers but now your views have changed.

You now speak of how you would love to see what a party looks like. You simplicity was fast departing from you. You are now more concerned and conscious of how you look. You now want to dress in the latest fashionable clothes. Expensive lifestyle is where you are gradually moving into even though your financial background cannont afford it. Your cycle of friends has changed too. You no longer move with believers but with unbelievers. Even I your best friend could have been left out if not that I fought back. I fought back because there is no way I would watch the love of my life drift away from me.

In your third year I couldn’t recognise you anymore. You completely changed. You became a complete opposite of who you once were. You left our fellowship. You hardly went to church. We preached and preached till we became worn out and retired to only praying for you. You became more daring in your dressing. Indecent exposure became your signature style. You now refer to your self as “hot baby”, “slay queen” “slay Mama”, “baby la hot” and so many other ungodly phrases. You are no longer “sister Mary”.

The first class degree you were once pursuing you have abandoned. You are now contented with a pass grade. I don’t know how many boyfriends you now have. But I do know of “Mike, Emmy, Joe and Kayode. Your expensive lifestyle had to be maintained so you resorted to having sugar daddies. I find it hard to recognise you physically. You were once African black beauty but now you are “white” in complexion. Your hair were once black but now it’s coloured yellow .

I don’t know if there is any party on campus you failed to attend. You are now a club girl. I don’t know what to do. I have lost a friend to the pleasures of life. I doubt if you are still a virgin. What else would your numerous boyfriends and sugar daddies ask in return for all the money and gifts they shower on you if not sex. I am convinced about this because virginity to you is now over hyped and out-dated.

I want to abandon you and leave you to die in your sinfulness. But I cannot. I cannot because God never stops seeking for a lost sheep, therefore I cannot abandon you. Secondly I still love you very much. My love for you haven’t changed even though you have changed. I still know that the good in you is still alive but unconscious, it is still inside you. I hope that after reading this you will have a change of heart and return. Take care and God bless you.

I still love you very much
Your friend



“Just know that this life is mysterious and everything is in God’s hand. Everything is dependent upon God”. These are the encouraging words of my bosom friend Kenneth which I have kept in the back of my mind as a reminder not to give up.

There are certain things that might happen to you which you might never get the chance to know why. There is no explanation for it on earth but you might get to know why when we reach heaven.

Don’t try to explain every unexpected events in your life or question God.

Be contented to know that everything on earth is dependent on God. He alone knows tomorrow. He alone can save us. The most important thing in life is to be in a good relationship with God.

If you need anything ask him, don’t be afraid or shy. If you are in trouble call upon him. If you are in doubt ask him to take charge. Pray for people especially those in need of God’s help.

There are many events that have taken place in my life, challenges that have shaken my faith. But in all I do not try to question God or try to explain everything because I cannot do so. My faith and trust in God is what I hold on to.

Trust in God, hold on to God and do not lose faith. Enjoy your life on earth. God wants you to be happy. My prayer for you is that any challenge or problem you are facing in life that God will deliver you from it. Amen. Happy Sunday

Remain blessed.
I love you