“CALM DOWN”, these words are ever on the lips of my friend Kenneth. Whenever I confide in him about a particular difficult situation I am facing he never fails to tell me to first of all “calm down”.

These are the same words I have for you, “calm down”. You can’t overcome any challenges of life with an unclear mind, a distorted mood or a hazy mindset. You need to be calm and calculated. If you try to rush at things and solve it haphazardly you might make a mistake along the way. In your best interest try and calm your spirit. Over thinking or over worrying about the situation worsens it. Your restlessness does not solve the problem faster.

Assuming you just experienced a heartbreak the best thing for you is not jump into another relationship immediately. It may be that you are not actually in love with the new person but rather using him or her to fill an emotional void. This you will find out only when you have finally gotten yourself together.

Please calm down ok, you will surely get through your most difficult moments. Remain blessed.

I love you,



Violence against children is a pervasive
problem, very close to home, in Nigeria, with
six out of every ten children in the country
suffering one or more forms of physical,
sexual or emotional violence before they reach
18. More than 70 per cent experience this violence repeatedly. One out of two suffer
physical violence, such as punching, kicking,
whipping, burning, choking, trying to drown,
threatening or hitting with a weapon; one in four
girls and one in ten boys have experienced
sexual violence; one in five boys and one in six girls suffer emotional violence.

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There is not one path in life,
Each of us has his or her own path,

There is not one way to your destiny,
There are many paths,

Some take a shorter route while some take a longer route,

Some go through different path before connecting to the main path.

Whatever you are doing, do not forget that your path is different.

Follow your path, if its taking longer, don’t worry it will finally connect to the main road.

Follow your destiny route, its yours alone.

Jump into another person’s own route and you will get lost.

In the journey of life take your path.




In the compound where I live almost all the young boys there are living with their girlfriends. And some of the girls have started bearing children for their lovers. What a shame! This trend all of a sudden started from nowhere and swept through the compound like a wave, a satanic wave for that.

As a youth what type of life do you wish to live? Are you aiming at the pleasure driven life or the goal driven life. Are you imitating the life of baby mamas (the trend now) and baby papas or are you imitating the life of Christ?

The girls perform the role of a wife, taking care of the house, taking care of the man. While the boy performs the role of a husband, providing for the both of them.

Not so long ago one of those that is currently pregnant for the boyfriend asked another girl why she has refused to bear a child for her own boyfriend. The girl boasted that if she wanted to bear a child for the boyfriend she would have done so but at this time she just doesn’t want to. She then went further to boast of how many abortions she had had in the past, too many of them that she can’t recollect them all. Including the one that was clearly visible to everyone that she was pregnant and the pregnancy was up to four months but she was able to flush it out. Much to the amazement of everyone who knew her.

Who would this lady blame if when she eventually marries and the souls of the children she had aborted refuses that she should again bear any child. And the most painfully part of it is that most of them do not eventually marry each other. Along the line one thing or the other will separate them and that is after wasting their youth in a life of sexual immorality.

I am writing from experience just for you to know that this thing is not something I heard or read somewhere but something I am witnessing right now.

And I ask you again as a youth what type of life do you wish to live. Are you aiming at the pleasure driven life or goal driven life. As a parent what type of lifestyle do you teach your children? Are you encouraging them to follow the path of sexual purity or sexual immorality?

Dear young ones aim at or for CHASTITY. There is nothing in this world that last, everything passes in a flash. One day you will get married and you will have the whole of your lifetime to live with the opposite sex why rush into it now. Learn the act of delayed gratification. It is what has catapulted men of success to greater heights. Live a purpose driven life like the likes of Ben Carson.

Remember your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost do not make it the temple of sex, pornography and masturbation. If you have a sexual partner (boyfriend or girlfriend) end the relationship today. And see how your life will change for the better.

I want to see you successful and happy. I don’t want unwanted pregnancy to ruin it for you. I want you to fulfil your destiny, I don’t want satan to destroy your destiny through sexual sins.

Young girls aim to remain chaste till marriage.
Young boys aim to remain chaste till marriage.

May God continue to bless you all I love you.

Your friend



Can you recall your primary school days? How serious were you in primary school? How often did you study whilst in primary school? Are you among those that once they come back from school, flies the school bag and uniforms into a heap of clothes and immediately rushes off to the football field. How often were you taught in your primary school? Were your teachers serious and dedicated? Did you go to a private primary school where the teachers are adequate and dedicated or to the public schools where the teachers are few and not dedicated?

I was privileged to have attended a private primary school but even then I was keeping tabs with those in public schools and how well they fared. Today with what I am seeing in our public schools I am of the opinion that our public primary schools are in need of help.

Education has been recognized as a basic human right since the 1948 adoption of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights.

But how many states in Nigeria can boast of a strong school system in place. How many can boast of a strong female education system in place especially in the Northern Nigeria.

Universal Basic Education Commission, UBEC, the commission that is in charge of primary and junior secondary education in Nigeria has stated that Basic Education in Nigeria is “free”, “compulsory” and a right of every child.

My take is on this education that has been made free how good is it. Is it worth giving to someone as a free gift. I am of the opinion that it is not worth a free gift. Give to someone what he will appreciate and which will be beneficial to him now and in the future. The free education that is offered in our public primary schools is a hoax, not worth giving.

My reasons for refusing to accept such a free gift are many and I would enumerate it for you. And then my dear friend I want you to prove me right or wrong by going to our public primary schools and finding out the truth for yourself.

Do you know that most of our primary schools do not have good classrooms and some even do not have classrooms at all they study under the tree. What a shame. Free education that is offered under an unconducive environment is that one really worth giving. Children learning under a dilapitated building, when it rains they get drenched and they stop learning till the rain stops. When the sun is at its peak they feel the heat of the sun. What if but God forbid that the dilapitated building one day caves in and falls on them. Lovely and joyfully children coming to school with all seriousness to learn but they are not given the right learning environment. The irony of it all is that the government is capable of turning things around but they are not sensitive enough to do so. Their children are in private schools so it does not in any way affect them.

Please my dear leaders of Nigeria, The President, the senators, the reps, the Governors save our public primary schools. Save our poor parents, save our children. Give them better future, invest in their future. Take them as your children. Please rich philanthropists from all over the world come to the rescue of our public primary schools. God will bless you as you do so. UN, UNICEF, BILL AND MELINDA GATES and all good and well meaning organisations come and help our children in public primary schools.

The primary school that my elder sisters went to is in shambles today. I have a strong belief that the money that was budgeted to transform it have been embezzled. Why do I say so? It is because out of the three classroom blocks only one was renovated and the two other left in their pitiable state. A new classroom block was supposed to be added but it never went beyond the foundation stage. The pupils only study in one classroom block as I am speaking to you now. I want to ask who awarded those contracts can’t he be sensitive enough to find out if those contracts were well executed.

The teachers in public primary schools are few and not enough. The ones that are there are not motivated enough because of lack of incentives and issues of non payment of salaries. Even when the government employs teachers most of them do not go to teach in places of assignment. And at the end they will still collect their salaries. Supervisors and Headmasters that are supposed to monitor the teachers to make sure they are performing their duties are unfortunately aiding in the destruction of the school system. They collect bribes from the teachers in exchange for not reporting them. Who suffers at the end? It’s the pupil and the poor parents.

Another thing I have noticed is that those in public schools seems to be a bit behind in terms of learning the syllabus. I don’t know what textbooks and materials they use in learning. Those in private schools are far brighter and far ahead in the syllabus and the textbooks they use are very good. Maybe we need to look into what these children are learning. Are there teachers in need of training, which I know they need. Some of them are still teaching the children with the old knowledge and old syllabus which is no longer in use today. Thats why you see a primary one pupil in private school being more knowledgable than his counterpart in public school.

Today is Democracy day in Nigeria. A day we celebrate our return to Democratic rule after many years of military dictatorship. I wish the leaders will also include the little children among those who are to benefit from the dividends of democracy. Because I believe they have been neglected. Those who send their children to public schools are the poor ones, since no right thinking parent who has the means to train his kids will do so.

A UNICEF report I read about primary education in Nigeria states that Nigerian government is far behind in terms of providing good and quality education compared to other sub saharan regions. This is UNICEF report not mine. They are working on ground and should be able to see better than we do.

I want to appeal to all people of goodwill to please put pressure on the leaders so that they will transform our Primary Education into what it is supposed to be. And to all persons who have the means please help out, we need your assistance.

Thank you and God bless you.

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