Up till now I still do not understand why young women are advised to remain chaste before marriage (keep their virginity) and the same advice is hardly given to their male counterparts.

I still do not understand why in some cultures women who cheat on their husbands die in the act or run mad instantly but their male counterparts who cheat on their wives go free. Why?

Are men permitted to be promiscuous while women are forbidden. When as young boys growing up emphasis is on the virginity of girls and not on the virginity of both.

Young women are advised to be wary of the boys. To avoid getting too close to them because they may get them pregnant. This they obey and run away from the boys.

But unfortunately no one thinks it wise to admonish the boy child the same way the girl child is admonished. No tells him to respect and protect women and desist from turning them into sexual objects.

No one advises him to remain chaste till marriage. The society hardly talks about boys remaining virgins also. They are quick to condemn the girls who move around with boys labelling them prostitutes but sees the boys as heroes for their ability to have so many girls.

The society portrays men as savages or animals that do not have control over their sexual urges and they are allowed to express it. While the women are taught to be in control of theirs and then control the men when they approach them.

This is a serious misunderstanding of sexual expression in our society.

In order to tell us how wrong we are the Bible made it clear to us that anyone who engages in sexual immorality shall not inherit the kingdom of God. The Word of God did not say women but any person who disobeys the commandment of God, who defiles the temple of the HOLY SPIRIT him shall God kill.

I make bold to say that:
Virginity is for everybody
boys and girls alike.
Virginity is not a woman thing.

Both women and men should be taught and encouraged to remain virgins till marriage.

And to remain faithful in marriage.

God bless us all.

I love you


YOU HAVE CHANGED (musings by mcn)

We met during your first year. As a fresher you were young, vibrant , beautiful and dedicated. And above all you were innocent, spiritual and godly. We tapped into your zeal in the service of God. In our fellowship you were our unelected leader.

You took your studies very serious. You shunned all form of boyfried-girlfriend relationship. You said you didn’t want to be distracted by a relationship. I was a friend who loved you but I dare not tell you. Hence I had to be contented with just being your friend. I admired you for your simplicity, your love of God and your jovial and friendly nature.

In your second year I began to notice changes in your lifestyle. You were gradually drifting away from whom you were to whom you are not. Your zeal for the Lord was gradually dwindling. You now had excuses for not attending fellowship, Masses or any other spiritual gathering. I noticed your clothes were getting shorter and tighter by the day. Your dresses now becoming more revealing and explicit than you would have loved. You were once against women wearing trousers but now your views have changed.

You now speak of how you would love to see what a party looks like. You simplicity was fast departing from you. You are now more concerned and conscious of how you look. You now want to dress in the latest fashionable clothes. Expensive lifestyle is where you are gradually moving into even though your financial background cannont afford it. Your cycle of friends has changed too. You no longer move with believers but with unbelievers. Even I your best friend could have been left out if not that I fought back. I fought back because there is no way I would watch the love of my life drift away from me.

In your third year I couldn’t recognise you anymore. You completely changed. You became a complete opposite of who you once were. You left our fellowship. You hardly went to church. We preached and preached till we became worn out and retired to only praying for you. You became more daring in your dressing. Indecent exposure became your signature style. You now refer to your self as “hot baby”, “slay queen” “slay Mama”, “baby la hot” and so many other ungodly phrases. You are no longer “sister Mary”.

The first class degree you were once pursuing you have abandoned. You are now contented with a pass grade. I don’t know how many boyfriends you now have. But I do know of “Mike, Emmy, Joe and Kayode. Your expensive lifestyle had to be maintained so you resorted to having sugar daddies. I find it hard to recognise you physically. You were once African black beauty but now you are “white” in complexion. Your hair were once black but now it’s coloured yellow .

I don’t know if there is any party on campus you failed to attend. You are now a club girl. I don’t know what to do. I have lost a friend to the pleasures of life. I doubt if you are still a virgin. What else would your numerous boyfriends and sugar daddies ask in return for all the money and gifts they shower on you if not sex. I am convinced about this because virginity to you is now over hyped and out-dated.

I want to abandon you and leave you to die in your sinfulness. But I cannot. I cannot because God never stops seeking for a lost sheep, therefore I cannot abandon you. Secondly I still love you very much. My love for you haven’t changed even though you have changed. I still know that the good in you is still alive but unconscious, it is still inside you. I hope that after reading this you will have a change of heart and return. Take care and God bless you.

I still love you very much
Your friend



Violence against children is a pervasive
problem, very close to home, in Nigeria, with
six out of every ten children in the country
suffering one or more forms of physical,
sexual or emotional violence before they reach
18. More than 70 per cent experience this violence repeatedly. One out of two suffer
physical violence, such as punching, kicking,
whipping, burning, choking, trying to drown,
threatening or hitting with a weapon; one in four
girls and one in ten boys have experienced
sexual violence; one in five boys and one in six girls suffer emotional violence.

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With the lens of education I can see the future. They told me my certificate won’t matter at the end that my skills will be all that will be required. But I have chosen to be the best in my class and raise my skill level. I will be the best both in paper and in practice.

They told me am a girl that I shouldn’t aim higher in life. That my education is of no use since I will end up in a man’s kitchen and I will never apply my knowledge. But today I have decided to aim higher in life. I will study hard and come out the best. I will be of greater help to my husband, to my family and to my country. I will raise bright and beautiful kids and together we will build an empire. I will work and reduce the workload on my husband so that he will have more time for me and my kids.

I can see my future
I’m going to be a good mother, wife, daughter and sister. Even you too, Embrace education.




There is not one path in life,
Each of us has his or her own path,

There is not one way to your destiny,
There are many paths,

Some take a shorter route while some take a longer route,

Some go through different path before connecting to the main path.

Whatever you are doing, do not forget that your path is different.

Follow your path, if its taking longer, don’t worry it will finally connect to the main road.

Follow your destiny route, its yours alone.

Jump into another person’s own route and you will get lost.

In the journey of life take your path.




In the compound where I live almost all the young boys there are living with their girlfriends. And some of the girls have started bearing children for their lovers. What a shame! This trend all of a sudden started from nowhere and swept through the compound like a wave, a satanic wave for that.

As a youth what type of life do you wish to live? Are you aiming at the pleasure driven life or the goal driven life. Are you imitating the life of baby mamas (the trend now) and baby papas or are you imitating the life of Christ?

The girls perform the role of a wife, taking care of the house, taking care of the man. While the boy performs the role of a husband, providing for the both of them.

Not so long ago one of those that is currently pregnant for the boyfriend asked another girl why she has refused to bear a child for her own boyfriend. The girl boasted that if she wanted to bear a child for the boyfriend she would have done so but at this time she just doesn’t want to. She then went further to boast of how many abortions she had had in the past, too many of them that she can’t recollect them all. Including the one that was clearly visible to everyone that she was pregnant and the pregnancy was up to four months but she was able to flush it out. Much to the amazement of everyone who knew her.

Who would this lady blame if when she eventually marries and the souls of the children she had aborted refuses that she should again bear any child. And the most painfully part of it is that most of them do not eventually marry each other. Along the line one thing or the other will separate them and that is after wasting their youth in a life of sexual immorality.

I am writing from experience just for you to know that this thing is not something I heard or read somewhere but something I am witnessing right now.

And I ask you again as a youth what type of life do you wish to live. Are you aiming at the pleasure driven life or goal driven life. As a parent what type of lifestyle do you teach your children? Are you encouraging them to follow the path of sexual purity or sexual immorality?

Dear young ones aim at or for CHASTITY. There is nothing in this world that last, everything passes in a flash. One day you will get married and you will have the whole of your lifetime to live with the opposite sex why rush into it now. Learn the act of delayed gratification. It is what has catapulted men of success to greater heights. Live a purpose driven life like the likes of Ben Carson.

Remember your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost do not make it the temple of sex, pornography and masturbation. If you have a sexual partner (boyfriend or girlfriend) end the relationship today. And see how your life will change for the better.

I want to see you successful and happy. I don’t want unwanted pregnancy to ruin it for you. I want you to fulfil your destiny, I don’t want satan to destroy your destiny through sexual sins.

Young girls aim to remain chaste till marriage.
Young boys aim to remain chaste till marriage.

May God continue to bless you all I love you.

Your friend



Can you recall your primary school days? How serious were you in primary school? How often did you study whilst in primary school? Are you among those that once they come back from school, flies the school bag and uniforms into a heap of clothes and immediately rushes off to the football field. How often were you taught in your primary school? Were your teachers serious and dedicated? Did you go to a private primary school where the teachers are adequate and dedicated or to the public schools where the teachers are few and not dedicated?

I was privileged to have attended a private primary school but even then I was keeping tabs with those in public schools and how well they fared. Today with what I am seeing in our public schools I am of the opinion that our public primary schools are in need of help.

Education has been recognized as a basic human right since the 1948 adoption of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights.

But how many states in Nigeria can boast of a strong school system in place. How many can boast of a strong female education system in place especially in the Northern Nigeria.

Universal Basic Education Commission, UBEC, the commission that is in charge of primary and junior secondary education in Nigeria has stated that Basic Education in Nigeria is “free”, “compulsory” and a right of every child.

My take is on this education that has been made free how good is it. Is it worth giving to someone as a free gift. I am of the opinion that it is not worth a free gift. Give to someone what he will appreciate and which will be beneficial to him now and in the future. The free education that is offered in our public primary schools is a hoax, not worth giving.

My reasons for refusing to accept such a free gift are many and I would enumerate it for you. And then my dear friend I want you to prove me right or wrong by going to our public primary schools and finding out the truth for yourself.

Do you know that most of our primary schools do not have good classrooms and some even do not have classrooms at all they study under the tree. What a shame. Free education that is offered under an unconducive environment is that one really worth giving. Children learning under a dilapitated building, when it rains they get drenched and they stop learning till the rain stops. When the sun is at its peak they feel the heat of the sun. What if but God forbid that the dilapitated building one day caves in and falls on them. Lovely and joyfully children coming to school with all seriousness to learn but they are not given the right learning environment. The irony of it all is that the government is capable of turning things around but they are not sensitive enough to do so. Their children are in private schools so it does not in any way affect them.

Please my dear leaders of Nigeria, The President, the senators, the reps, the Governors save our public primary schools. Save our poor parents, save our children. Give them better future, invest in their future. Take them as your children. Please rich philanthropists from all over the world come to the rescue of our public primary schools. God will bless you as you do so. UN, UNICEF, BILL AND MELINDA GATES and all good and well meaning organisations come and help our children in public primary schools.

The primary school that my elder sisters went to is in shambles today. I have a strong belief that the money that was budgeted to transform it have been embezzled. Why do I say so? It is because out of the three classroom blocks only one was renovated and the two other left in their pitiable state. A new classroom block was supposed to be added but it never went beyond the foundation stage. The pupils only study in one classroom block as I am speaking to you now. I want to ask who awarded those contracts can’t he be sensitive enough to find out if those contracts were well executed.

The teachers in public primary schools are few and not enough. The ones that are there are not motivated enough because of lack of incentives and issues of non payment of salaries. Even when the government employs teachers most of them do not go to teach in places of assignment. And at the end they will still collect their salaries. Supervisors and Headmasters that are supposed to monitor the teachers to make sure they are performing their duties are unfortunately aiding in the destruction of the school system. They collect bribes from the teachers in exchange for not reporting them. Who suffers at the end? It’s the pupil and the poor parents.

Another thing I have noticed is that those in public schools seems to be a bit behind in terms of learning the syllabus. I don’t know what textbooks and materials they use in learning. Those in private schools are far brighter and far ahead in the syllabus and the textbooks they use are very good. Maybe we need to look into what these children are learning. Are there teachers in need of training, which I know they need. Some of them are still teaching the children with the old knowledge and old syllabus which is no longer in use today. Thats why you see a primary one pupil in private school being more knowledgable than his counterpart in public school.

Today is Democracy day in Nigeria. A day we celebrate our return to Democratic rule after many years of military dictatorship. I wish the leaders will also include the little children among those who are to benefit from the dividends of democracy. Because I believe they have been neglected. Those who send their children to public schools are the poor ones, since no right thinking parent who has the means to train his kids will do so.

A UNICEF report I read about primary education in Nigeria states that Nigerian government is far behind in terms of providing good and quality education compared to other sub saharan regions. This is UNICEF report not mine. They are working on ground and should be able to see better than we do.

I want to appeal to all people of goodwill to please put pressure on the leaders so that they will transform our Primary Education into what it is supposed to be. And to all persons who have the means please help out, we need your assistance.

Thank you and God bless you.

mcn loves you



MASTURBATION is the manipulatation of one’s own genitals, or the genitals of (another), for sexual gratification.

In one of the Universities in Nigeria a story arose of a female student who was rushed to the University health center after the cucumber she was using to masturbate got stuck in her.
Whether the story is true or not no one knows nonetheless it is believed that some female student actually engage in such act. Not a good one.

Do you want to be free from this enslavement? Then read on.

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ADDICTION is the state of being enslaved to a habit or practice or to something that is psychologically or physically habit-forming, as narcotics, to such an extent that its cessation causes severe trauma.

Masturbation is addictive and just like any addiction it is harmful and dangerous to the life of the addict.

To unbelievers masturbation is normal but to us Christians masturbation is a sin just like any other addiction such drug, alcohol and porn.

Masturbation is not a men thing, women also struggle with it.

Porn and Masturbation poses a serious threat to believers who have no sexual partners (girlfriends or boyfriends) and who wishes to be pure. This is because it is done in private and no one among the brethren will know what is happening in such a person’s life. Unlike when the person is co-habitating with his or her sexual partner.

Married men and women also struggle with masturbation and porn.

Take these steps.


First step to being free is to confess our sins to God. Admit that you are addicted to masturbation, don’t deny it or try to come up with an excuse . Admit that you have defiled your body which is the temple of the Holy Spirit. Do you know that masturbation actually comes from two words meaning “hand” and “defile” telling you that it means defiling yourself with your own hand. Admit your weakness, sin has made us very weak. You cannot win this battle unless you run to your creator for help. Satan is the origin of evil and he has his agents who are specially assigned the task of pushing people to masturbation and locking them up in that prison. Do you want to be free? Be Humble and Honest.


Understand that masturbation is a sin. You cannot stop it if you think it is not bad. If masturbation is not a sin what then is it? Certainly the Bible condemns any form of sexual relationship between people who are unmarried and also people who are married that leaves their partner for another.

Masturbation is having sex with yourself or with an object. Can you now see that it doesn’t fit into God’s plan of sex, which is union between two people a man and a woman who are married, for the purpose of procreation and intimacy. Can a woman ever become pregnant after masturbation?
Can you now see that it does not honour God. Can you now see that masturbation is cheating on your spouse.

Understand that it is a sin, it is outside of God’s plan of sex. It is actually of the devil’s making, to lead the children of God astray.


Reject all the false assumptions about masturbation. You know them very well. For you to be free you need not have same belief with unbelievers or those who have lapsed in their faith.

Reject all those belief that masturbation is good for your health. Reject the belief that is a natural means of relieving sexual urge, natural but what about it being ungodly. Reject all those theories some scientists and psychologists are coming up with in order to promote masturbation. It is the devil speaking through them. Even the devil spoke through Peter and Christ rebuked him telling him “GET BEHIND ME SATAN. Now tell those negative theories, beliefs and assumptions “GET BEHIND ME SATAN. Amen!


To some people nighttime is a dangerous time to others shower time is their dangerous time. What is your masturbation moment, do you know it? It is at this moment or time that the temptation, the urge to masturbate comes with so much force that it overcomes your reasoning and resolutions. Know your particular moment just like soldiers find out where their enemies are camped.

With your knowledge of that moment and time we are going to fight and win this battle. Amen


Where in particular do you masturbate most? Is it at the bathroom, or your bedroom? Could it be that it is at the restroom is your office or at your desk with your laptop. Think now, think back where has it been occuring most. Your brain has actually associated that place with pleasure from masturbation so anytime you step into that place the brains becomes excited ready to continue where you stopped. This is the same thing that happens at the particular time you masturbate. Get ready to attack this enemy camp and be free from its enslavement. Amen!


Do you know about these four triggers called HALT meaning HUNGER, ANGER, LONELINESS, TIREDNESS.

What triggers your masturbation desire? Is it loneliness, stress or happiness. Some people are triggered by porn or G-rated movies or erotica or anything related to sex such romance novels or erotic magazines and arts. I want you to find out yours. Some people have become too addicted to porn and masturbation that nothing triggers it anymore, this is a very severe case. Such persons are now living for porn and masturbation, it has now taken over their whole life. Work, food, friends and family is now to them porn and masturbation. No matter how far you have gone you are still redeemable. Amen


With your knowledge of the time, the place, and the trigger now is the time to work on them.

On moment, avoid them if you can. Fill your nighttime with godly activities, sleep early before the time you usually masturbate. Pray when that moment is about to approach tell God the hour has come for him to save you. At shower time, be fast and don’t stay too long at the shower and don’t touch your body unnecessarily. Pray also before going to the shower.

Be creative. I want you to be creative. Think of ways to end your masturbation addiction. You know your masturbation moment think of how you will counter and defeat it. God will give you ideas.

On Location, Same thing you did on moment. Pray before you enter that place. Place your computer at a place where people can see what you are doing. Sing worship songs while bathing, while in the restroom. Make your bedroom bright and godly, using Holy images and Biblical quotations to decorate it not naked celebrities and ungodly things. Now be creative you can come up with better ideas.

On triggers. Find out activities you enjoy in order to kill off stress and loneliness. Buy a game that actually makes your brain creative and play it so that your brain replaces that negative one with a positive one. Destroy all erotic materials in your possession, movies, books and the likes. Eat when hungry. Seek for counseling if you are dealing with emotional problems such as anxiety, loneliness and stress. Avoid idleness, it is the devil’s workshop.

Are you married. Become more closer and intimate with your spouse. If your sex life is not is not giving you the satisfaction it should, tell your spouse about it. Talk about it, proffer ways to make your marriage and sex life more fulfilling and happy. Apostle Paul warned us against allowing the devil to destroy our marriages through our sex life. The man or the woman denying the other sex. Both you and your spouse should give in to the other. You own your bodies, masturbation and porn should not take over. Amen!


Only God can set you free. That is why in all these steps you should go with God,






Study the word of God. Meditate on the word of God. Memorize the word of God. Most especially the word of God that talks about sexual sins. Read and Memorize the following verses.

Matthew 5:27-30| 1 Peter 2:11| Romans 8:13| Romans 6:12| 1 Corinthians 6:13| Galatians 5:17| Philippians 4:8| 2 Timothy 2:22| Psalm 101:2,3| Proverbs 6:25-29| Proverbs 5:18-20| Proverbs 8:13| Job 31:1-4| Matthew 5:8| Romans 8:6| 1 Corinthians 6:9| 1 Corinthians 6:18-19| 2 Corinthians 10:5, 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5| James 1:15; 4:3| 1 John 2:16,
This is your weapon of masturbation destruction. Keep them at hand whenever masturbation comes knocking. Tell him what the Lord says about sexual sins and see how he will fly away from you. Amen


Yes you are free. If the son of man sets you free you are free indeed. Now go and rejoice. God has delivered you. Praise the Lord! Alleluia

Remain blessed
I love you




It’s another sunrise,
Your voice I have not heard,
Your smile I haven’t seen,

The days are passing by,
The months are fleeing away,
All in a haste,
No one ready to hear me,

Please Rise not alone,
Come not alone,
Shine not on me alone,
Rise with she,
Come with she,
Shine on us,

It’s another sunrise, Sunshine,
And I miss you,

My heart is in pain,
My breaths are heavy,
I am afraid!
What if…..?

Oh Please, Where are you!
I know you can hear my thoughts,
If you are in danger call me,

If you are safe,
Come back,
I have missed you,

please take my message